“Becoming Her Again”

This year, I’m not trying to add more habits.

I’m not chasing another routine, another checklist, another version of productivity.

I’m changing my identity.

Because every time I’ve truly changed my life, it wasn’t because I did more —it’s because I decided who I was going to be.

And lately… I realized I lost her.

Who is her?

She’s the version of me who feels grounded in herself.

She moves with intention, not urgency.

She makes decisions from clarity, not fear.

Her values are simple, but non-negotiable: freedom, honesty, health, presence, and peace.

Her energy is calm but powerful.

She doesn’t rush to prove.

She doesn’t over-explain.

She doesn’t abandon herself to keep others comfortable.

Her boundaries are clear — not rigid, just rooted. And her rhythm honors her nervous system, her cycle, her creativity, and her season of life.

Here’s what I’ve learned — and what I’m finally living:

Our brain doesn’t change through motivation.

It changes through cues, safety, and identity.

When your brain feels unsafe, it clings to old patterns —even when those patterns are exhausting, unfulfilling, or no longer aligned.

So instead of forcing discipline, I’m focusing on self-regulation.

I regulate my nervous system first.

I slow my body before I speed up my goals.

I choose environments, routines, and cues that support who I’m becoming — not who I’ve been surviving as.

That’s how consistency is built.

Not by pressure… but by alignment.

This is a new chapter for me.

I’m starting over at 38 —with a deadline, with clarity, and with decisions that change everything.

And yes… It’s scary.

But it’s also necessary.

Because something needed to change.

I wasn’t happy with my life —not because it was bad, but because it wasn’t aligned with who I was being. anymore.

I lost myself trying to do what I was told was “right.”I lost my freedom trying to fit into expectations that were never meant for me.

And now… I’m choosing myself again.

That choice hasn’t been quiet.

I’ve been called selfish.

I’ve been mom-shamed.

I’ve been judged for not doing what everyone else is doing.

But I don’t care anymore.

I’m tired of living disconnected from my truth.

Tired of shrinking to be accepted.

I’m tired of abandoning myself for approval.

This version of me chooses alignment over validation.

Everything is changing —personally, spiritually, emotionally, financially, and professionally.

And for the first time in a long time…I’m genuinely excited about my life.

Not because it’s perfect —but because it’s intentional.

This journey isn’t about becoming someone new.

It’s about remembering who I’ve always been.

And I’m inviting you to walk this chapter with me.

“If you’ve been feeling the call to choose yourself again — this is your sign.”